Friendship in Passion and Affect

a)What does I mean to be your friend?

b)Friends help each other to help themselves – but then so to business employees.

c)Friends show and interest in each others live – but so doe salesman.

d)Friends capture each up in a web of intrigue in which the other is very much part in the mental furniture of the comrades mind: But then so do governments o writers.

e)What is it then that makes friendship so very different?

f)What is it mean to be unmercenary.

g)One might immediately same-  that behind friendship is something oddly disinterested.

h)Another advantage other one-is then seen as ones own advantage.

i)This is more the puffing one acquaintance.

j)This is more that the empty charm of the confidence trickster.

k)The friend is the person one is touched by regardless of ones own interest.

l)It is the person who minds one values in and for itself: The person one values against ones own interest.

m)This is why of course friends is so very difficult.

n)Passions everywhere police he friend, and reintroduce selves which want the friendship to be all about them and them alone.

o)Passion therefore confuses friendship with flattery – either of another or ones selves.

p)Friendship in a sense t this degrees the sterner of passion as it might be if it was an affect.

q)Or to put it clearer the friend is the someone who one flatters in flattering oneself and visa-versa.

r)I big you up, and big myself at the same basic time.

s)Perhaps the litmus test here is the electivity of this exchange.

t)If other cannot at any cost join-  if it utterly does another then this is no affect. The game of friendship is to pen out-  and have the relationship with another be to others a pointer of interest beyond prurience

u)That is a point in which they feel themselves oddly caught up

v)I feel I know you already … so a friendship has moved beyond passion somewhere.

w) Or again the friend as the affect is caught in an odd exchange suspended between person and act.

x)One  wants to do things with ones friends-  but this doing stuff, and being stuff is double edged.

y)To do the same stuff without them is not absolutely unpleasant as longer s ones internal hem is high in ones mind.

z)To be with them and not do is equally querulous.

aa)Affective friendships are creatures in action – even if that action is discussion.

bb)They are point where two individual humans extend how they are and what they can be.

cc)They are pointer to what one might be.

dd)Te pot in timing another I exited how I can act ad what I can do.

ee)TI do not therefore merely extend a self. Rather I become not what I was.

ff)Which is of course why others can join even if in theory. Others can in the story and the thought share the lifting of a self by another to a different place.

gg)Mote then that they are the correct congregation for it as in that others reaction one gains the right to internalize a mate.

hh)At which point a passion stretches out two things of its own.

ii)Firstly it games the rights to own whatever thoughts tumble into it as the result of affective friendships. They are all mine! It cried. M me it is all about a m.

jj)Secondly it assumes that it can simply muscle in and take over what friendships there were. It can take itself into the others world – it is always as good as that other. T will always be what they are.

kk)The passion therefore misplace or misjudges the affective exchange.

ll)Or better it assumes that its manufactures, its ability to simply copy the world that it has seen – it capacity to endlessly generate is adequate to the affect.

mm)The result is of course a disaster.

nn)The very essence of the affect lies in hat the passion does not include – the point a passion itself is split and challenged.

oo)The exchange might always be productive and so always on the internal side generate and involve passions, but this does not mean it is the same as a passion.

pp)It simply is not.

qq)It is other than this passion in that it creates a world where one is not master f ones passions.

rr)They slip endlessly elsewhere – and are in being caught up with the perception and affinities one feels in other, made to dance differently than how one would expect.

ss)A friendship is the fresh air that breaths into ones mental world of fantasy and makes it sing differently- and create anew.

tt)It is therefore the point ones ceases all desire to own ones own mind a.

uu)This is why inspire of the flattery an the banishment one so often offered real friendship or better the point that one becomes area friend oneself is relatively easy to detect

vv)Can men will reveal themselves if one listens carefully enough.

ww)But there is a corollary here. Friendship can of course grow in the unlikely place.

xx) That is sometimes if one treats another passionate demands as if they actual were an affect – a strange friendship is built.

yy)One side there is the pretence real or imagined that the other is their friend. That I their is the taking seriously and valuing as if it were an affect what that other offers.

zz) On the other there is the passionate individual who id not really mean to offer friendship but is now caught up in the affect of it all.

aaa)That is they are more caught up in the exchange and the power of being taken elsewhere and towards others and through others.

bbb)The power of differing what ones is in the face of being another.

ccc)The power then of having all ones passions queried albeit unwittingly in another treatment of them.

ddd)One knows one is out to use another and yet, and yet and yet – that other makes it so very hard in their blind turns.

eee)The table of fantasy of course at this paint switch back upon themselves and in switching are caught.

fff)They will therefore come as another thing – they become something utterly elsewhere.

ggg)That the fantasy that one was doing another good, becomes for the erstwhile trickster and real friend the illusion to hide and yet in which one can conceal area friendship.

hhh) To not develop those [passions becomes itself an act of love.

iii) Not being  friend can be as much an act of utter friendship as being one.

jjj)Or better if ones love is not enough to actually change – if one canto resolve oneself in another trust to be utterly different (and so throw oneself upon it0 one will need o define a point in which one breaks for it – a point that in the name of what might have been one turns away flees-  and allows oneself to be a self.

kkk)One might break  friendship to defined oneself and yet in breaking it do so in love, and to stop that self rising up and taking over whatever exchange one had.

lll) Friendship is therefore complex-  one might reject the path one is offered-  even if it promises redemption, and so because the passions are forced to bow to an affect which knows that the reasons one was offered this redemption are wrong.

mmm)That I one knows that ones passions were self serving and o take what the other offers is mere greed- it is no exchange – and so in the name of generosity and what they offer one must break.

nnn)The point is that the affect in disrupting what one is an allowing another to flood within allows ones to operate against self interest and narrow advantage: it demands one to do so, in the name of that other reality one is apart: the affective landscape beyond every simple passion and the single identity it inhabits.